Releasing the Past with EFT


As long as we're carrying the past around inside us (which is just what happens to us as human beings--it's not a choice, and it's not our fault), it will continue to affect our present day lives--the choices we make, how we see the world, and the extent to which we're able to realize our potential. 


Though the weight of our emotional baggage can feel overwhelming at times, there is a finite number of painful experiences to tap out, and once you've tapped something out, it's gone forever. It's helpful to keep this in mind, especially if you've had a lot of trauma, because it can feel like there's an infinite amount of pain, confusion, and conditioning to deal with.


Think of all of your pain as a glass of water. Every time you neutralize a painful memory with EFT, it's like pouring out a little (and sometimes a lot) of that water, so that now your glass is a bit emptier, and you are a bit freer. 


If you are, for example, working on healing your childhood wounds, eventually that glass will be empty, and you will be totally free from the pain it has been causing you your entire life. 


The same goes for tapping to heal grief (or anything else).  Every time you do EFT about that loss, you're pouring out some of the water in that glass, and before long, it will be empty, and you will no longer be suffering over it. 





Can you imagine what it would be like to be completely free from the painful parts of your past? Can you imagine how much lighter you would feel, and how much easier it would be to realize your potential? If healing every part of your painful past seems daunting, keep in mind that all you have to do is take it one memory at a time.


Think of an event that caused you to suffer. Write it down, and then create tapping statements out of what you've written, or simply use what you've written as is, reading through it as you tap. Keep tapping until it feels neutral.


As you tap, you may become aware of thoughts and feelings that are nudging you toward another aspect of that experience that needs healing, or toward another experience all together. Now you can tap that one out. If you don't have time, or you feel like you've done enough tapping for one day, save it for your next session.


No matter how many painful experiences you've had, there is a finite number of them, and they can all be released using EFT. Remember the glass of water. Every time you you tap out an upsetting memory, that glass will have a little less water in it than it did before. If you keep at it, before long, it will empty, and you will be free!





When doing EFT tapping on your own, if you aren't able to completely heal the issue you're working on, so that when you think about it, it no longer causes any stress, emotional pain, anger, or fear, I recommend working with a professional EFT practitioner. If you decide that this is the best course of action for you, click here to schedule a session or free consultation.



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Heather Ambler is a San Francisco Bay Area EFT practitioner and mindset coach. Through her private practice and online programs, she’s helped over 10,000 people in 78 countries recover from loss, heal trauma, release fears, increase confidence, and achieve goals. To schedule a session or free consultation, click here.





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