As long as we're carrying the past around inside us (which is just what happens to us as human beings--it's not a choice, and it's not our fault), it will continue to affect our present day lives--the choices we make, how we see the world, and the extent to which we're able to realize our potential.
Though the weight of our emotional baggage can feel overwhelming at times, there is a finite number of painful experiences to tap out, and once you've tapped something out, it's gone forever. It's helpful to keep this in mind, especially if you've had a lot of trauma, because it can feel like there's an infinite amount of pain, confusion, and conditioning to deal with.
Think of all of your pain as a glass of water. Every time you neutralize a painful memory with EFT, it's like pouring out a little (and sometimes a lot) of that water, so that now your glass is a bit emptier, and you are a bit freer.
If you are, for example, working on healing your childhood wounds, eventually that glass will be empty, and you will be totally free from the pain it has been causing you your entire life.
The same goes for tapping to heal grief (or anything else). Every time you do EFT about that loss, you're pouring out some of the water in that glass, and before long, it will be empty, and you will no longer be suffering over it.
YOUR LIFE WITHOUT THE WOUNDS OF THE PAST
Can you imagine what it would be like to be completely free from the painful parts of your past? Can you imagine how much lighter you would feel, and how much easier it would be to realize your potential? If healing every part of your painful past seems daunting, keep in mind that all you have to do is take it one memory at a time.
Think of an event that caused you to suffer. Write it down, and then create tapping statements out of what you've written, or simply use what you've written as is, reading through it as you tap. Keep tapping until it feels neutral.
As you tap, you may become aware of thoughts and feelings that are nudging you toward another aspect of that experience that needs healing, or toward another experience all together. Now you can tap that one out. If you don't have time, or you feel like you've done enough tapping for one day, save it for your next session.
No matter how many painful experiences you've had, there is a finite number of them, and they can all be released using EFT. Remember the glass of water. Every time you you tap out an upsetting memory, that glass will have a little less water in it than it did before. If you keep at it, before long, it will empty, and you will be free!
When doing EFT/tapping on your own, if you get stuck, aren't getting the results you want, or would simply like to have the support and guidance of an experienced professional, I recommend working with an EFT practitioner. To schedule a session with me, click here. If you feel that another EFT practitioner would be a better fit for you, click here to access a directory of practitioners.
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BY HEATHER AMBLER
Heather Ambler is a San Francisco Bay Area based teacher and practitioner of EFT, writer, speaker, and founder of The 30-Day Tapping Challenge. Through her private practice and online programs, she has helped many thousands of people all over the world use EFT to find freedom from suffering and release the inner obstacles that were keeping them from living their best life. To learn more about Heather, click here.