Tapping Script for Relieving the Pain of Loneliness
According to the Harvard Business Review, "Loneliness is a growing health epidemic. We live in the most technologically connected age in the history of civilization, yet rates of loneliness have doubled since the 1980s."
Current research indicates that loneliness poses serious health risks, including:
Loneliness can also affect job performance, limiting creativity, and impairing other aspects of executive function such as reasoning and decision making.
"Loneliness and weak social connections are associated with a reduction in lifespan similar to
that caused by smoking 15 cigarettes a day."
~ Harvard Business Review
As I'm sure you know, feeling lonely doesn't require being alone. Many people feel lonely within their marriages, and it's not uncommon for people to feel their most lonely when surrounded by other people.
The good news is that tapping can help alleviate feelings of loneliness, therefore reducing the detrimental effects it can have on health and productivity.
Of course, it's also critically important to do whatever you can to feel more connected and supported in your life. For some people, that could come in the form of marriage counseling, for others it could mean joining a club, participating in MeetUps, or getting a pet.
In the meantime, there's the incredible healing power of tapping, which will not only release painful feelings of loneliness, but will also make it easier to do whatever you need to do to feel more connected to others, by releasing whatever of feelings shyness, inferiority, fear of rejection, and social anxiety you may have.
HOW TO USE THIS SCRIPT
As with all of my tapping scripts, these statements can be used as is, or modified in any way that makes them resonate more fully with your experience. Some of them will fit for you, and some will not. Just use the ones that fit your experience and have an emotional charge.
You may notice that when you start tapping on these statements, thoughts and feelings will arise that you can then turn into new tapping statements, which will then give rise to still more thoughts and feelings, which you can use to create additional tapping statements, and so on. I call this following the thread, and it’s a very efficient way to heal and release a lot of painful feelings in a short amount of time.
When doing EFT/tapping on your own, if you get stuck, aren't getting the results you want, or would simply like to have the support and guidance of an experienced professional, I recommend working with an EFT practitioner.
If you decide that this is the best course of action for you, and you would like to work with me, you can schedule a session here. If you feel that another EFT practitioner would be a better fit for you, click here to access a directory of practitioners.
THE TAPPING STATEMENTS
I'm feeling really lonely right now.
This loneliness feels like a weight that's sitting on my chest.
I'm feeling really alone right now and it's so painful.
Sometimes I feel like no one really "gets" me, and it makes me feel alone.
I wish I had someone to talk to who really understands me.
The hardest part of my job/marriage/living situation/illness is how alone it makes me feel.
I need more human connection, but I don't really know how to meet people that I would like and relate to.
It's so easy to turn to social media when I'm feeling lonely, but it often ends up making me feel even worse.
I miss those times in my life when my social calendar was always full.
I feel more lonely in my relationship with my husband/wife/partner/boyfriend/girlfriend than I did when I was single.
I want to have a deeper connection with my spouse/friends/family, but I don't know how to make that happen.
At this time in my life, I don't really feel close to anyone, and it's really hard.
My loneliness feels like a physical weight I have to drag through my days, and it makes it hard to get things done.
I don't feel as close to my friends as I used to, and it makes me feel sad and lonely.
Being divorced is really lonely.
Being widowed is so lonely.
Being a single mother/father is really lonely.
Having this illness is really lonely.
Working from home can be so lonely.
I feel isolated from other people, and it's a very lonely feeling.
It seems like the older I get, the harder it is to make new friends.
I wish I didn't have to spend so much time alone.
Social connection is something I really need and enjoy, but I can never seem to find the time.
I thought being married would mean that I never had to feel lonely.
Being a stay-at-home mom/dad is really lonely.
I love and enjoy my kid(s) so much--it's weird how lonely I can feel when I'm taking care of them.
I want to take steps to alleviate my loneliness, but I'm too shy to go to an event by myself.
The lonelier I feel, the harder it is to put myself out there and meet people.
Now that we all have kids, it seems like my friends and I rarely see each other.
I thought having kids would make me feel closer to my spouse/partner, but it often seems to have the opposite effect, and that makes me feel alone.
I need more connection and support in my life, but I don't know how to get it.
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