EFT Tapping Script for Healing the Pain of Rejection

Being rejected is painful, and sometimes it can be downright devastating. When you experience rejection of any kind, not only does it hurt; it can also have myriad detrimental effects on your life, including:

Intense emotional pain
Diminished confidence
Feelings of worthlessness
Social anxiety
Low self-esteem
Feeling small and playing small in your life

Identifying and healing the various ways in which rejection has affected you will improve every aspect of your life.⁣

In this tapping script, I've unpacked a lot of the most common aspects of the pain of rejection, so that all you have to do is tap them out.

So let's get tapping!

HOW TO USE THIS TAPPING SCRIPT

As with all of my tapping scripts, these statements can be used as is, or modified in any way that makes them resonate more fully with your experience.

Some of them will fit for you, and some will not. Just use the ones that fit your experience and have an emotional charge.

You may notice that when you start tapping on these statements, thoughts and feelings will arise that you can then turn into new tapping statements, which will then give rise to still more thoughts and feelings, which you can use to create additional tapping statements, and so on.

I call this following the thread, and it’s a very efficient way to heal and release a lot of painful feelings in a short amount of time.

Before you start tapping on a statement, give it a number between 0 and 10 which indicates the level of fear, stress, or concern that the statement brings up for you.

Then, do your best to tap on the statement until it is a 0, which means all of the emotional charge is gone.

There is a lot of material here! I recommend spending anywhere from 20 to 60 minutes on this, but not more than that.

That means you’ll only have time to tap out a small number of the statements on this script in one session.

If you’re thorough, and tap things down to 0, you’ll likely feel MUCH better after tapping out just a few of them. You can attend to other ones at another time.

PLEASE NOTE

When doing EFT on your own, if you aren't able to completely heal the issue you're working on, so that when you think about it, it no longer causes any stress, emotional pain, anger, or fear, I recommend working with a professional EFT practitioner. If you decide that this is the best course of action for you, and you'd like to work with me, click here to learn more and schedule an EFT session or free consultation.

THE TAPPING STATEMENTS

When someone rejects me, it hurts my feelings.

When I get rejected, I feel like it’s my fault.

All of the rejection I’ve experienced in my life must mean there’s something wrong with me.

If I was lovable and worthy, people wouldn’t reject me.

Rejection makes me feel unlovable.

Being rejected makes me feel unworthy of love.

Being rejected makes me feel bad about myself.

When someone rejects me, it’s hard not knowing why they didn’t want me.

I wish there was something I could do to prevent getting rejected.

I feel like it’s my fault that _____________ didn’t want to be with me.

It’s my fault that I wasn’t selected for that job I wanted so much.

It’s my fault that ___________ didn’t want to be my friend.

If I was more attractive, _____________ would have wanted me.

If I was smarter _____________ would have wanted me.

If was ________________, I wouldn't get rejected so much.

The worst part of feeling rejected is the effect it has on my self-esteem.

It’s hard to feel good about myself when it seems like nobody wants me.

When I was growing up, I felt rejected by ___________________.

I try to be perfect so that people won’t reject me.

Getting rejected makes me feel really alone.

When ___________ rejected me, it really affected my confidence.

It hurts my feelings when others don’t seem to want me, whether it’s personally or professionally.

It’s hard not to take it personally when someone makes it clear they haven’t chosen me.

Sometimes I’d rather end a relationship than face the possibility of eventually being rejected.

Sometimes I sabotage relationships to avoid the possibility of being rejected.

Sometimes I reject other people just because I don’t want them to reject me first.

Fear of rejection has stopped me from going after many things that I wanted in life.

Being rejected makes me feel like I’m not good enough.

I’d rather not try than risk getting rejected.

I wish I had the confidence to go after what I want without worrying about being rejected.

When I really think about it, experiences of feeling rejected from many years ago are still affecting me today.

When someone doesn’t want me, it makes me feel small.

When someone rejects me, it makes me feel less than.

I’m angry at _________ for rejecting me.

I resent __________ for rejecting me.

Rejection is embarrassing.

Being rejected makes me feel ashamed.

When I get rejected, it makes me feel like there’s something wrong with me.

Part of me feels that if I could just fix whatever’s wrong with me, I would never get rejected.

Being rejected makes me feel like an outcast.

My life would be better if ________ hadn’t rejected me.

NEXT STEPS

As I mentioned above, when doing EFT tapping on your own, if you aren't able to completely heal the issue you're working on, so that when you think about it, it no longer causes any stress, emotional pain, anger, or fear, I recommend working with a professional EFT practitioner. If you decide that this is the best course of action for you, and you'd like to work with me, click here to learn more and schedule an EFT session or free consultation.

BY HEATHER AMBLER

Heather Ambler is an EFT practitioner and mindset coach in California. Through her private practice and online programs, she’s helped over 14,000 people in 81 countries heal the pain of losing a loved one, recover from trauma, release fears, erase limiting beliefs, increase confidence, and achieve goals. If you could use some help with any of these things, click here to learn more and schedule an EFT session or free consultation.